Sipping on Tea and food for thought. So good!!!
Sometimes the things that you normally do doesn’t exactly float your boat… It doesn’t mean you are depressed. Maybe you need a break.
Sometimes what use to be your motivation no longer holds the same value… It doesn’t mean that you are not motivated…
Sometimes you get frustrated… And its ok. Maybe you need a break… We all need that every now and then especially during these times. Just ensure frustration does not cripple you.
You will have to survive some hard hits to make it. Prior to going to college, I was working in a department store in a local town and i was made fun of. I remember one day this girl that I went to primary school with came to the store saw me and asked for a shoes. As I was getting the shoes for her she started laughing at me. She had already started college and was in her 2 year or so, I guess to her, that’s where I would always stay. It didn’t break me but I held that memory.
I would have more instances like this, then finally the one that hit me to my core. This other girl who she and I went to high school together, and pretty much shared everything walked into the store. I was so happy to see her and with excitement I greeted her. She stared me dead in the eyes pretended that she didn’t know me then walked away. I was stunned, and I remembered going home and crying because of how she behaved. But I’m a survivor and survivors survive.
That blow hit me hard, I thought on it for long and processed it. A couple months later I got accepted into college and was to start the summer of the same year (which I did). Coincidentally, this high school friend heard through the grape vine that I was starting school and started texting me again and I shut it down immediately!
Some persons never wants to be in your struggles, but they will always want to be in your victory. Know when to sever ties, and never let your current situation or how people perceive you define who you are.
Survive. Survive every hard hit, every set back, great is ahead. Never limit yourself!
I am almost certain that we did not plan for the woes that came with 2020. The happenings of the year broke most of us, it took so many things and love ones from us. For me it will forever be lodge in history.
So with bated breath, we look towards 2021, careful not to place too much hope in it, out of fear. Which is understandable. But as humans we hope. We hope for things to change, we hope that when the sun rises in the ski revealing the first morning of the new year something pure will happen. That the dust of 2020 will just stay only in 2020.
The reality is the woes that were prevalent in 2020 will come with us for a time in the coming year. But we hope… That as the days pass normalcy we returned.
Although 2020 was a turbulent year I’m sure most of us can honestly say we learnt something new about ourselves, we discovered some hidden talent and we have all engaged in something we longed to do but time was lacking…
As We hope for a better year never for get what 2020 has thought us… How to survive inspire of the odds… The year 2020
Age does not define how mature you are. Maturing is more than growing physically or aging, it also speaks to maturing in our thought process and emotional growth. I have known persons who are eighteen or twenty who are more rounded and mature than persons in their late twenties or thirties and on ward.
Sometimes society over looks these key component of the term mature, and would want to, dear I say, silence people merely because of age. I have been truly blessed to have a mixture of friends ranging from teenagers to adults. These teenagers and young adults can for sure work amongst who we term “adults”. The manner in which they express themselves and the conversation they hold will simply blow your mind. When they speak, they are in depth with their analysis,their outlook is so refreshing, so real and their ultimate conclusion is well thought out.
Do not judge anyone merely because of their age or how they look.
As we approach the Christmas season, my family and I decided to do our major cleaning. I think we scheduled all our major cleaning and so it was pretty much anticipated. However, we always find things that we are afraid to part with, this year was no different, but we had to be decisive
As we sort through bags and boxes we decided to stop. We had decided we were not going to look in another box or bag, instead we were just going to throw them out. Risky right? But it had to be done because we were hoarding things again. Things we had done without for years, but nostalgia wanted us to keep it
Similarly, in life, we tend to habor things that needs to be thrown out or just let go. We keep holding on the past hurt, past love that no longer loves us back and things that have no more value to it. Why? Because we keep reopening those “boxes” and having open them we feel the need to hold onto them. Even, if for years those things never bothered you the moment you stir up old things they come back to life.
I am not saying you should forget your past, I saying that there are some things that you have now outgrown and it needs to go and stay in the past. Stop clinging to that photo, stop clinging to that dress (you are no longer a size two), stop saying “if I knew”. Its time to be progressive and a part of being progressive requires you to releases those baggages that are weighing you down.
Aren’t you tired of the weight? Tired of the hate, the angry, the bitterness, the one sided love? Aren’t tired of starving herself to get back to that size 2? You are a size 10 or whatever and you are fantastic! Throw it out you will be fine.
One of the most popular “bush” tea in Jamaica is the cerasee tea. One of the most notable thing about this tea is how bitter it is and also leaves that taste lingering in your mouth for a while. Like this tea, situations in life can be just as unpleasant.You have a choice though, you can choose only to remember the unpleasant moment, or, you can take the lesson it has to offer.
Every moment in your life is, or can be a teachable one, it all depends on how you look at it. The reality is not everyday of you life will be filled with smooth sailing and happiness, but it does not mean that your entire life will be full of hardships either.
Life is a mixture of things, mixture of different moments. It is filled with joy, happiness, sadness, heartbreak, Love, laughter, betrayal, peace, bitter moments, sweet moments and a lot more. But all of these combine the make life interesting, fun and unpredictable. Remember always that life is a gift, live life, love life and laugh hard.
This morning when I got up I was not in the mood to do anything, infact I lazely got out of bed. I had so much that I wanted to do. Today was the day I wanted to finally make my first video for my YouTube channel and upload some Tiktok video. I sat around the table staring at my phone. Running the simulation in my head as to how I wanted the videos to unfold, but I didn’t feel motivated.
Then I decided that I was going to get them done despite how I was feeling. So I got up did my hair in a lively up do, put on my favorite shade of red lipstick, sat infront of my phone and started to record. Almost immediately I came alive. I was fun of so much enjoy and vibes I kept spontaneously erupting in laughter as I made errors.
There are going to be days when you feel so dejected or so demotivated, but if you fight those ill feeling I believe you can cease the day. Sometimes you have to encourage and motivate yourself. You have to be your biggest cheerleader. Friends or family may not always be around to give you that pep talk, but imagine having something so deeply embeded within you, that force itself to the surface on those days when you need the most. Being intrinsically motivated is one of the best arrow in your quiver.
In this very moment I so happy for everything that life has to offer. I am also very happy for the various platform I have to express myself. I am happy for 4 followers on blog, 8 followers on my channel and 1 follower on my tiktok.
PS: It is a huge deal
It was Lewis B. Smedes who said “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you”. In this world it is so easy to hold onto the hurt, the betrayal and the anger instead of letting go. As I put pen to paper to make my jottings, I recognize how easy it is to actually write or even say these words as opposed to doing it. But considering the benefits and freedom that comes with forgiving its worth taking the risk to try it.
Unforgiveness
While it may seem as though you have won by haboring unforgiveness, but you are actually loosing. You are involuntarily giving you heart more room to entertain hatred. You are also giving the person or persons who hurt you the permission to live in your heart. Carolyn Miller stated “Unforgiveness is a poison that shrivels the heart. It means a person cannot truly live in the present as they’re always thinking about the past”. The past is very important, but to constantly live in it and having it dictate your life is not acceptable.
When you forgive a person its not about them, it’s about you and your hearts. Its for you to be free, heal and grow. Conquer hate, never let hate conquer you.
For me, friendships are extremely important and I hold them very dear to my heart. So rest assured if I tell you that you are my friend, I mean it in every sense of the word and you are held in high regards in my heart. So you will understand when I say my circle of friends is small and my inner circle of friends is even smaller.
Your friends should want to see you win and level up, being the best version of yourself as much as possible. You need people in your circle who can motivate you on those days when you need some extra encouragement. They should cheer loudly for you especially on those days when you just want to throw in the towel.
Recently I express to one of my inner circle friends that I wanted to do something new. When she heard my idea she instantly became one of my biggest supporter. She said “I will promote you, I even have some (referring to the concept I had just shared) that I want you to try” . When I express one fear that I had she instantly destroyed that fear and said what you are bringing to the table is different. In your life you will need friends like this who will cheer so loudly for you that the very doubts or fears you had seem so obsolete.
Your Inner Circle Friends
The word inner already suggest the position of those friends hold. It speaks to a different level of closeness that they hold in your life. These are the persons that know you on a personal level that knows detailed information about you and in essences knows you extremely well. The reality is not everyone you call friend is at this level. Some are mere acquaintance, so stop giving unnecessary information to them and expecting certain behavior from these acquaintance. Know your circle and the people in it.
Know when to walk away
Some friendships can be toxic and you just need to leave. You don’t have to argue you can peaceful back away. Sweetie you cannot continue pouring into something that is not going anywhere. A friendship should not be one sided, it has to be two sided. When a friendship or relationship becomes a one sided thing then my dear just walk away. Always remember Choose people who choose you.
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